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23 traits of a high-value man that separates him from everyone else

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by Paul Brian

www.ghanareaders.com

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Since ancient times, farmers have separated the wheat from the chaff.

When it comes to being a man, there are also character traits that set you apart from others and make you a truly high value man.

Here they are.

23 traits of a high value man

1) He stands by his word

One of the top traits of a high value man that separates him from everyone else is that he stands by his word.

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If he agrees to a business deal with a handshake, he sticks to that deal later when the contract is drawn up.

If he tells you he’s going to help you move next week, he shows up with his work boots and a smile.

Of course no man is perfect:

Sometimes he has to cancel, gets sick or has something come up.

But if he gives you his word, you can be sure he will do his level best to stick to it.

2) He develops his personal power

Another one of the biggest traits of a high value man that separates him from everyone else is power.

I’m not talking about him being a senator or the CEO of a corporation, I’m talking about the personal power he has honed inside himself.

From the outside, the high value man may look daunting and ultra-confident.

But I assure you that he’s no different than you or me.

He just took the insecurity inside himself and slowly transformed it into something a lot more effective.

So how can you overcome this insecurity that’s been nagging you?

The most effective way is to tap into your personal power.

You see, we all have an incredible amount of power and potential within us, but most of us never tap into it. We become bogged down in self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We stop doing what brings us true happiness.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s helped thousands of people align work, family, spirituality, and love so they can unlock the door to their personal power.

He has a unique approach that combines traditional ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist. It’s an approach that uses nothing but your own inner strength – no gimmicks or fake claims of empowerment.

Because true empowerment needs to come from within.

In his excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can create the life you’ve always dreamed of and increase attraction in your partners, and it’s easier than you might think.

So if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, you need to check out his life-changing advice.

Click here to watch the free video.

3) He looks after his body

You don’t have to be Leonardo DiCaprio or Chris Hemsworth to be a high value man.

Not all of us got hit over the head with the handsome stick.

But a high value man does look after his body.

He works out, runs, swims, exercises, maybe even does yoga.

He puts a premium on his own physical health as well, including dieting and adjusting what he eats in order to feel and look his best.

The core motivation behind all these actions isn’t vanity, it’s self-respect and discipline.

A high value man is disciplined and respects himself, and that’s why he does his best to look after his body.

4) He looks after his mind

Another of the top traits of a high value man that separates him from everyone else is that he looks after his mind.

The high value man knows that caring about mental health isn’t some girly trend or something that makes him “weak.”

He understands that your emotional and mental wellbeing is key to everything else in your life.

And that if you let yourself become enmired in a toxic pattern of reacting to difficult emotions and situations you can torpedo your life.

That just won’t do. So the high value man commits to improve and optimize his mental health as much as possible.

5) He’s a hero

Men who are high value know what makes them tick.

They have found a woman who brings out the best in them and makes them feel like a real man.

It sounds like a really old school idea, but it’s true.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The truth is, it comes at no cost or sacrifice to you. With only a few small changes in how you approach him, you’ll tap into a part of him no woman has tapped into before.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

Click here to watch the free video.

6) He supports his friends

A high value man sticks by his friends through thick and thin.

The only thing he doesn’t do is that he doesn’t brook betrayal and backstabbing.

But if you get sick, disagree with him, have a hard time or are apart for a long time, he’s still got your back.

He will stick by and support his friends no matter what happens and he will look after them however he can.

This includes financially helping out when necessary, taking friends to doctor’s appointments, helping research topics that friends need to know about and offering timely advice.

A man who’s worth his salt never lets down his friends.

7) He’s loyal in love

High value men don’t pump and dump.

If they like a woman they pursue her and woo her. If they don’t like a woman they’re honest up front and tell her that they’re not feeling it.

High value men commit to relationships and communicate.

They don’t play around or cheat, because if they want to break up they’ll be brave and open about it instead of sneaking around behind their girlfriend or wife’s back.

The fact of the matter is:

High value men give it their all or go home.

There really is no in-between.

8) He’s not a good guy

One of the other things that sets apart a high value man is that he’s not a good guy.

Many men are “nice guys” who end up getting left behind and curse the world – and women – for the injustice of life.

But the truth is that for as long as you think of yourself as a “good” and “nice” person, you’ll be severely limited from actually exploring your full potential.

A high value man is courageous enough to drop the labels.

He doesn’t need to think of himself as a good person anymore.

He’s more interested in letting actions speak louder than words, and he’s faced the darker side of himself without flinching and with full honesty.

9) He develops his skills

A high value man doesn’t rest on his laurels.

He’s always developing his skills, whether it’s learning to do basic repairs on a sewing machine or taking a crash course in welding.

Or he may just sign up for a community college one-month course on home accounting.

Because he can.

This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.

When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, his value skyrockets and his attractiveness as a potential partner greatly increases.

And the best part is, triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.

You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.

10) He dresses the part

A high value man cares about his style. He isn’t necessarily a metrosexual or a high fashion queen, but he’s far from a slouch either.

He buys shirts that go well with his pants, enjoys wearing shoes that are in good condition and wears tasteful accessories like rings, bracelets and manly watches.

He dresses the part because he is living up to a certain image of himself for himself.

This is not about showing off to the world that he has a nice Armani watch or that his comfortable pants go just right with his brown penny loafers.

It’s about feeling great in his own skin and reminding himself every minute that he is a person of value who cares how he looks and feels.

11) His hygiene is high

Hygiene is hard. Let’s be honest: there are days when brushing your teeth feels like an unbelievable hassle, much less showering and trimming your beard or shaving.

But a high value man does these things with military precision.

His hygiene is high and you won’t catch him with bad breath or wearing soiled shorts.

He doesn’t expect anyone else to pick up his slack, dress him or look after his hygiene: he handles it himself.

And even if he’s just had an intense workout, he takes the time to rinse off in the shower and pass a comb through his hair before walking out.

Because that’s just how he rolls.

12) He earns a decent living

High value men are not materialistic or obsessed with buying new cars and huge mansions.

But they do care about earning enough money to have a decent life and look after those they love.

As men’s corporate image consultant Kevin Samuels explains, high value men have always existed.

And like it or not, one of the key parts of being a high value man is earning enough money to live comfortably and provide for others.

13) He knows his own values

One of the most crucial traits of a high value man that separates him from everyone else is that he knows his own values.

And not only does he know them, he sticks to them.

Come rain or shine, he’s a man of principle.

Sometimes that means telling a white lie or doing some other slightly unethical things, but a man of value always has a hierarchy or priorities.

For example if he has to lie about his schedule this weekend in order to lie to a telemarketer who wants to sell him a cruise, he’ll do it.

He also won’t do what Keegan-Michael Key of the comedy duo Key and Peele does in this hilarious skit:

14) He’s generous

Another one of the important traits of a high value man that separates him from everyone else is that he’s generous.

In a me-first world, he’s ready and willing to sometimes put others first.

He’s not a selfless simp by any means…

But he is a guy who’s not afraid to give.

And if and when he can, he will help out and be there for his friends, and sometimes even strangers.

Even if it’s just with some kind words or a cup of coffee when they need it most.

15) He’s confident

High value men are confident.

There’s no other way to say it.

They know their value, as I said, and they demonstrate that in their job and their interpersonal relations.

They don’t buy into ideas like being an “alpha male,” but they are competent and ready to stand up when the going gets tough.

As Min Liu writes in his book The High Value Man: Principles of Positive Masculinity:

“Men have lost their way…

“Men have now veered off onto two different paths in terms of their manhood and masculinity.”

As Liu points out, modern men are increasingly falling into the category of being either an “alpha male” or a “beta male.”

Both fall far short of what a high value man should aim for.

16) He cares about his family

A high value man is a family man. At the same time, he values his independence and never lets family members take him over or spread toxic energy into his life.

He deals with family problems with understanding and patience, but he’s never a sop or a doormat for the problems of parents, siblings or extended relatives.

He’s a man you can trust and rely on.

But never a man you can take advantage of.

17) He avoids black-and-white thinking

A low value man engages frequently in black-and-white thinking.

If he has a breakup he bemoans that he’ll “never” meet the right woman and “always” be alone.

If he meets a new partner who he’s very into he’s joyous about how he’s now “made it” and life will be “peaches” from here on out.

No, no, no…

The high value man doesn’t play these harmful games. He knows that the best and worst times in life can always change.

And he manages to control and mediate his emotions even during the best and worst of times so that he doesn’t spin out of control into irrational and impulsive behavior.

A high value man can control himself and his reactions to life, at least more so than your average low value man.

18) He cares about his diet

They say that you are what you eat, and a high value man takes that seriously.

He’s not finicky or obsessive about his food and diet, but he cares and he does pay attention.

He won’t be the one at the buffet heaping French fries on his plate and slathering them with ketchup.

He’ll be the man serving a nice slice of roast beef and a medium portion of salad with some vegetables.

Because he cares about himself and can put off immediate gratification enough to do what’s best for his body.

19) He has practical knowledge and curiosity

Being a high value man isn’t just a matter of looking and feeling great.

It’s also a matter of what’s in your cranium.

And a high value man has goals, priorities and curiosity about everything under the sun.

While he has improved his ability to focus and hone in on one skill, he also tends to be something of a Renaissance man, dabbling a bit in many areas.

He always has something he’s working on and whether it’s basic mechanics or restructuring his company with a new vision, he’s on target and on task in new and exciting ways at all times.

As Acie Mitchell puts it in How to Be a High Value Man: The Blueprint to Success With Women: 

“A man can enhance his eligibility for being high-value by always being purpose-driven and having his priorities in order.”

20) He turns anger into his ally

We all get angry sometimes, and that’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes there are good reasons to get angry.

It’s a natural emotion.

But when anger has no outlet it can stew and fester, becoming mental and physical illness.

The high value man doesn’t get stuck in this trap.

He turns anger into his ally, channeling it into causes and passions that make his life and the world a better place.

Instead of using his anger to destroy, he uses it to build.

21) He’s in touch with his creative side

A high value man is in touch with his creative side.

He likes to use his imagination to make the world a better place and to build a better life for those he cares about.

He’s an innovator and an explorer at heart.

And even if it’s just repairing the toaster, you could pick him out of a lineup of 50 people from a mile away just by the energy and know-how bristling off him…

That’s the thing:

By now you should have a better idea of what separates a high value man from everyone else.

So the key now is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.

I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.

And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change from as early as today.

With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge, before sure to check out the video now.

22) He doesn’t hold grudges

A high value man doesn’t hold grudges. He has his clashes and his conflicts, but he works through them and resolves them as much as possible.

Holding on to hate just isn’t for him.

As the character James (played by Tim McGraw) says in the excellent Western show 1883, holding on to hate just drags you down with it.

The man of high value knows that very well.

He does his best to let hate go.

23) He works hard

Last and perhaps most of all, a high value man works hard.

He doesn’t have to be a celebrity or a brilliant author or a musician who rocks the world.

He may be a road paver or a garbage man.

But he works damn hard and he ends the day with a stretch and a feeling that he’s done his part.

Because he has.

And ultimately if you can say that at the end of the day, you yourself are a high value man.

Know your own value

A big part of being a high value man is knowing your own value.

As I mentioned earlier, learning to develop and claim your own personal power is key to being a high value man.

When you know your own worth and express it through real action day by day, a transformation begins to take place.

The inner dialog you’ve had for so many years and being stuck in your head, begins to fade away.

It gets replaced by your authentic self: a man of high value who’s ready to contribute to the world and improve his own life and the life of others.

 

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Powerful Traits of a High-value Woman

By Baani Sethi

Men aren’t attracted to women for their bodies; their overall aura pulls men in. A high-value woman is an assertive, powerful, and free individual. They face challenges, but they know what they want and are good at presenting themselves. While becoming a high-value woman is not an easy task, these easy signs of a high-value woman will help you imbibe all the traits necessary to become one.

Why Is It Important to Be a High-value Woman?

A high-value woman is someone who understands her importance and worth. She exudes a level of enthusiasm that extends beyond her outward appearance. Besides being highly desirable to men, women of high value also understand their intrinsic worth. They are confident in their ability to stand up for themselves regardless of what others say or do to them.

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Top Traits of a High-value Woman

“What makes a woman attractive to men?” is a frequently posed question. We’ve been trying to answer this for a long time, but we believe we’ve just scraped the surface of the query. In this article, we’ll break down the top 10 attractive qualities of a high-value woman so you can get started on your path to becoming a desirable woman.

  1. She Values Her Self-Esteem

A high-value lady is intimidated by her high standards, but she enjoys and feels at ease in her own company. Not afraid to end a relationship if someone does not love her as much as she loves herself. People will respect her more if she respects herself and others. A woman of high value deeply respects and loves herself and will not accept anything less.

  1. She Has a Kind Heart

Compassion is a powerful force in the world of high-value women. She is courteous to everyone as she recognizes the value of all. Because of her inherent warmth, she exudes genuine, enduring beauty. She is present with everyone and treats those around her with love, compassion, and kindness, and does not shy away from expressing these.

  1. She Is a Continuum Fan

A high-value woman always strives to improve herself. She is passionate about living a fulfilled life and believes in being a well-rounded person. She seeks mental, emotional, and spiritual stability and is not afraid to seek professional help. She is dedicated to learning through books, films, music, travel, and art. She strives to expand her knowledge daily to remain open and modest.

  1. She Is Empathic

High-value women are aware of the implications of their actions and words. Not only can they communicate effectively, but they also understand the significance of tone. She is emotionally intelligent and does not pass judgment based on her emotions or ideas. She accepts people as they are, without expecting or demanding change.

  1. Her Maturity Gives Her Stability

A valuable lady does not need to play games or manipulate others to get her way. Pretending to be too busy or dragging guys along for amusement are all things she considers unworthy of her attention. She will not act in ways that are contrary to her beliefs. She understands that she is unique and does not need to prove it to anyone.

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  1. She Speaks Her Mind

She freely expresses her emotions and ideas, despite realizing she might offend others. She isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants because she understands that her needs are as important as everyone else’s. Saying no or establishing boundaries is not difficult for her; she does these with openness, authenticity, and vulnerability.

  1. She’s Overjoyed

A high-value lady lives her life following her goals, ambitions, and values. Nobody can stop her from doing what she enjoys. Setbacks and difficulties do not derail her for long; instead, they inspire her to strive harder and be more. She adores what she does and who she is; she wholly owns her happiness and well-being.

  1. She Is a Lady

A high-value woman understands how to express her real charm, elegance, and beauty. She is comfortable in her skin and carries herself elegantly, not seeking attention from others. She doesn’t need to compete with other ladies as she believes in both their worth and hers.

  1. She Is Self-sufficient

A high-value lady will also take care of her body. Every day, she hydrates her body with healthy foods and works to feel confident and attractive. She values her leisure and self-care routines. Her body is well-cared for, and she understands the value of a well-balanced lifestyle.

 

  1. She Accepts Her Flaws

A valuable woman understands that vulnerability is not synonymous with weakness or neediness. Affection is her definition of emotional bravery. She allows her loved ones to be open and genuine with her and accepts them with their flaws. She is not afraid of being alone; however, she believes in connection, closeness, and trust.

Tips to Be a High-value Woman

 

How can you be fantastic if you don’t realize that you deserve to be treated with love and respect? Confidence is an essential step to achieving happiness. To be confident, you must believe that you are worthy. You need to learn how to appreciate yourself if you are not doing so already. Being a high-value woman starts with these steps:

  1. Stand for Your Values

Just because others believe something is correct does not obligate you to agree. Never try to blend in with the crowd to gain acceptance. Speak up if you have justifiable reasons to state something as incorrect. Stand for what you believe in.

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  1. Be Open-minded

You can’t understand why others do things differently unless you’re open-minded. It’s okay if you don’t agree with someone or if they don’t agree with you. Always strive to be understanding and to accept; you can’t blame them for not having options.

  1. Don’t Be Easily Offended

A high-value lady does not let situations out of her control bother her. She recognizes her worth and never disappoints others. When necessary, she is both amusing and serious. She understands how to behave in specific situations, which distinguishes her from others.

  1. Refuse to Be Noticed

Please don’t act like a child yelling at their parents to get their attention. If you must be with people, choose honest and decent people who pay attention to you even without asking. Replace positive people with emotional vampires.

  1. True Altruism

To be a high-value woman, you must love deeply. Being selfish is bad. Instead, it would help if you gave to others. A woman of value constantly assists others and expects nothing in return. That is one of her most vital qualities despite others perceive her as clingy and needy.

  1. Be Logical

If it’s essential, act serious, and if it’s just for fun, blend in. A high-value lady always knows what to say at the right time and is never embarrassed by her actions. She is always willing to help and advise, but if you refuse, she will stop. She knows when to draw the line and when to cross it. Her life revolves around logic and making the best decisions possible.

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  1. Contribute to Improving Other’s Lives

To be a high-value lady, you must assist others while not appearing superior. Even if you are more evolved than others, don’t tell them because it may harm them. It will help if you make an effort to better the lives of others.

  1. Always Be Brave

Whatever happens, stay strong and keep your head held high! Allow no one to bring you down. You know what you get to the table, and no one can take that away from you. Be a self-assured woman who stands up for herself. Defend those who cannot defend themselves. Be a real human being with your heart on your sleeve. Never worry about being hurt when expressing your emotions.

A woman who understands the value of herself and chooses her relationships carefully is often seen as unique. She is of high value as she knows her worth and treats others equally. Because she loves and respects herself, she realizes that her life is still complete and wonderful even without a life partner. Maintain these characteristics of a high-value woman, and you will improve not only your life but also the lives of others.

 

Ten Common Problems in Marriage

By Harry Munsinger, J.D., Ph.D.

Married couples often develop bad habits that can produce resentment and divorce.

People marry young, share good and bad times, have a family, begin to fight, and have sex less often as they age.  Suddenly they feel alone when they are with their partner.  What happened?  Generally, if you recognize a problem in your relationship and are willing to take steps to change your bad habits, you can fix the marriage.  However, it takes two to make a marriage work so if one spouse has his or her foot out the door, it can be difficult to fix a marriage.

  1. Communication Issues

The most common complaint among married couples is lack of communication.  Many couples put up with problems rather than try to fix them.  In the beginning they agreed he would earn money and she would take care of the house and kids. When they face new challenges later on, they have to negotiate a new compact.  The issue is whether spouses can listen to each other’s complaints without interrupting or getting defensive and reach anew consensus.

  1. Ignoring Boundaries

It’s not uncommon for one spouse to try to change his or her partner.  Whether it’s how he or she dresses or about fundamental beliefs, trying to change your spouse will feel like a personal invasion and may trigger defensiveness oranger.  Overstepping boundaries can destroy mutual trust.  The result is likely to be retaliation or withdrawal from the relationship.

 

  1. Lack of Sexual Intimacy

There are lots of reasons couples lose interest in sex–ranging from medical problems to emotional issues.  Generally, sexual problems trigger a vicious cycle where it’s difficult to want sex when you feel emotionally distant from your partner and it’s difficult to feel emotionally attached without experiencing sexual intimacy. To get past sexual indifference, couples need to discuss and resolve their emotional issues.

  1. Emotional or Sexual Infidelity

A common problem in many marriages is for the couple to become emotionally distant.  When this happens, it’s likely he or she may start looking around.  Emotional infidelity can lead to adultery and cheating is destructive of a marriage.  It’s important for every couples to discuss and agree on what constitutes infidelity.

  1. Fighting About Money

Disagreements about money are inevitable in a marriage.  One spouse may want to save while the other wants to spend.  Disagreement about money usually reflect different core values.  To avoid these problems, it’s important to discuss and agree how to handle finances.

  1. Selfishness

If one spouse constantly places his or her needs above the goals and interests of the marriage, it’s only a matter of time before the neglected spouse begins to feel rejected and unloved.  Getting married involves give and take rather than getting your own needs met all the time.  If one spouse dictates the terms of the marriage and won’t compromise, that’s a recipe for disaster.

  1. Value Differences

When a couple has core value differences, such as religious preferences, that can cause serious problems.  They may have major disagreements about what religion to teach their children.  Other differences include how to discipline, definitions of right and wrong, or other ethical conflicts.  Everyone doesn’t grow up with the same values, morals, or goals and there is lots of room for debate about right and wrong.  If a couple can’t learn to adjust to different values, they may have serious problems in their marriage.

  1. Different Life Stages

Most couples don’t think about differences in life stages when they marry, but this can be a significant problem with couples are different ages.  Personalities change and a couple may not remain compatible as they transition to different life stages.  An older husband may not be interested in beginning a new family while the young bride is anxious to have a baby, or he may be nearing retirement and want to slow down while she needs to stay active.

  1. Boredom

Doing the same old thing can get tiresome and it’s hard to make changes in a comfortable relationship until it’s too late.  Doing something new from time to time can add spark and spice to a relationship.

  1. Jealousy

Being jealous can turn a marriage sour, especially if the jealous feelings are unrealistic.  Jealous persons can become overbearing and controlling or angry and rejecting.  If you are feeling jealous, see a counselor to decide wither your feelings are reasonable.  You may have an attachment problem that needs to be discussed with a competent counselor.

It does take two to make a marriage work.  If the marriage cannot be fixed because one or both spouses no longer want to be married, call an experienced San Antonio Divorce Attorney.

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